Kids                                           Published: October 1, 2008   Updated: October 9, 2008
When my first daughter was born, I saw the significantly increased responsibility and realized how naive I was in thinking of the life with kids. I found it full of joy, excitement, and challenges. Until they start to manipulate you intentionally, you feel like tomorrow will be better when the kids can take care of themselves.

When they start to develop their independence, they test each nerve you have. I wish I could control all of them. Honestly I have tried to deal with each of them. In about eighty percent times, I can resolve them in a logical manner. But those those twenty percent failures hurts you inside, and you start to question yourself what to do and what not to do. You want them to be a successful person and we try our best, but our kids respond back as if we are against their bright, happy, and fun life.

It is a rocky, and frustrating road ahead when the argument continues for homework, food, and clothing. As a model, you want to be democratic, and participatory in this attempt, each of them are turned down as if they were not important. I feel like there is a power conflict. It is philosophically interesting to see how your own child is challenging your power.

Anyway, as a living thing, we all feel good, and we all have responsibility to help our kids. Only you can judge your action, so if you think you are doing it right, continue your way. Yes, you are tired, and you would like to quit, but not-continuing what you think right has a higher price than otherwise. Be aware of the the dirty negative politics about kids that is plenty available in our society.

Experiences:

• The more you treat the kids as your friend, the more they try to wine with you.
• They make fun of you if you try to prove why each your directions are right. Seeing the importance of logic among adults, we try to mimic it with our kids. We just cannot prove each of our statement true with an explanation.
• As two people, there will be difference between you and your kids, but you have to clarify if we cannot reach in same conclusion, they have to listen to us.
• From very beginning if they become more independent, they behave with more responsibility